Saturday, 17 December 2011

A FULFILLED MARRIAGE IS POSSIBLE

It is worthy to note that without a good marriage there is no good church, and without a good church there is no good nation. The best way to learn in marriage is when you talk with others. Our experience may differ but the base line is the same. In the world over, many marriages are going through crises and many people do not talk. God expects us to enjoy our marriages, not just endure them..


The moment you give your life to Christ every step you take should make you better for God, for the society and for yourself. If you get married and after marriage you are sad, then its not worth it. If you get married and after marriage you are worse off as a Christian, then it is not worth it. Or even if you have children and after having children you are worse off, then it is not good.


Many marriages are not giving glory to God. Many marriages are an offence to the faith we profess. When we take any step in life it should make us better vessels of God. God should be able to beat His chest and say I am happy that I am involve in your life. In other words, God should be able to look at you and say: “ am happy I give my daughter this husband. I am glad I gave my children this home.” That is what makes God glad. That is what advances His purpose and His kingdom.


A fulfilled marriage is possible. Most marriages fail before they are even contracted. Many homes fail because some see marriage as a necessary evil, something that, “well you have no choice”. I interviewed some people on why they want to get married? Here is there sincere responses:

well my dad has been troubling me that I am getting too old and I am getting irresponsible so I want to get married.

All my friends are getting married and it is embarrassing, so I want to get married too.

Someone said, look the next man that comes, whether he is good or not I will just go for him!”


You will notice that from so many indices marriages fail because whatever is not built on a good foundation cannot stand. We need to realize that it is the will of God to have a fulfilled marriage and to enjoy our marriages. It is never the will of God for us to endure and to manage.


A look at most broken homes shows that often times the problem has to do with the foundation, or with what is built on the foundation. Two things should be kept in mind by every couple either at the onset of marriage or in the course of marriage itself. And they are: we desire to have a happy marriage; secondly, we desire to have a successful marriage. I used to think the two were the same but I discover later that the two are not exactly the same. I discover later that a marriage can be successful and not happy. It took me time and a lot of heart and mind searching to arrive at this.


Now what is a successful marriage and a happy marriage? A combination of happiness and success makes for fulfillment in marriage. A successful marriage has to do with marriage as others see your marriage. Let me paint a picture. A couple is getting married and everybody comes around, and a flamboyant wedding takes place and all that. By the time their marriage is five years, they have three children. The man and the woman have good jobs that they can boast of two or three cars and possibly have a decent home of their own. Anybody looking at that marriage from the outside will conclude that it is a successful marriage. But does it follow that is is happy? Of course it doesn’t!


Success in marriage has to do with how others see your marriage. You may have people, who talk about such a marriage and say: Oh, I thank God for them. I just want to be like them. But you only need to hear stories about what goes between them to know whether they are actually fulfilled or not.


On the other hand, happiness has to do with how the two of you perceive your marriage. Because I believe that when you are talking about happiness there is no other person that can judge for you except the two of you. The wife is the one that can really say whether her marriage is a happy one or not, irrespective of the externalities. And the husband is also the one that can say whether the marriage is happy or not. So it takes the two of you to know whether your marriage is happy.


But I want to say that regarding success and happiness, God wants both of them for our marriages. God wants us to be happy within ourselves, and to judge our marriages to be good. When the two of you can judge your marriage to be good, and you are happy, contented, then it is happy marriage. God also wants our marriage to be successful. God does not take pleasure in backwardness. God wants us to advance and make progress.

So when you get married it gives God good pleasure to see that you are progressing. And I discover that there are even times, and I have witnessed it so many times, when two people are happy between themselves but because certain basic things of life that can be considered as necessities are lacking somewhere along the line, the marriage gets into a hitch. I have seen that you can have a couple who are able to manage through a hard time, but it is not always good for the hard time to be prolonged. Somewhere along the line it is good for the hard time to be converted to good time. So both the happiness and the success make for a fulfilled marriage. You can understand now that we are talking about a fulfilled marriage is possible. That means a marriage that is both happy and also successful.


Now there are four elements that have to do with fulfillment in marriage. One is determination, the second is hard work. The third is co-operation between the couple. The fourth is the blessing and the grace of God. This is because you can have all these and if the blessing of God is not there it won’t work. Now, let us go over them one after the other.


The first is determination. It must not be sided. It must be two sided. For example a husband may be determined to make the relationship work. But if the wife is not as determined as the husband, it may be difficult. It would only result in the fact that one of the two is sweating it out. That is not God’s desire. Now, it would be an unequal yoke if one is very determined and the other is not. That is not God desire and this will an unequal yoke if one is one is very determined and the other is not. And you find marriages where one party goes through a lot of pain, and keeps managing. While the other is content with what happens: if it works out, fine; if it doesn’t it makes no difference. So determination is very important and this has to do with having a readiness of mind and a good focus.


Then hard work is very important. Hard work has to do with diligence, and there must be a measure of readiness too because if you are determined and you are not ready to work hard, it may not work. So determination is good, but hard work must backup the determination in order to be able to work towards a fulfilled marriage.

Now, there must be co-operation between the couples. This is very important. Let me give the old time illustration of plowing a field. Before the advent of tractors what was used in plowing fields was yoking two oxen together. It is believed and known from experience that the two animals to be yoked together must have many similarities including height and strength. The speed and even the temperaments must be the same. This is because if one of the two animals is patient and the other is impatient, you will discover that it will not work, and that is what the Bible refers to as unequal yoke. If the height and the strength are not equal, the yoke cannot work very well and the field will not be well plowed.


Let’s call that field the marriage institution. The two people that are involved must be well yoked, properly yoked. And there are so many similarities they must have. We all know that those of us who are married that most of the difficult times we have are as a result of dissimilarities between us. It has to even do with your growth in grace. If one person has advanced so much spiritually and the other has not, it causes so many problems. If one is more temperamental than the other, it causes problem. So you discover that co-operation between the people matters so much.


And then the fourth one is the blessing of God. Now, let’s at Psalm 127. This Psalm tells us something which is very significant. It is a key that applies for all times! Let’s read verses 1 and 2:

Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it; except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. It is in vain for you to rise up early , to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrow, for so he giveth his beloveth sleep.


The emphasis here is on the fact that the blessing of God, at the end of the day, is really what matters. That is why I often tell people that the God factor in marriage is really the base line that makes every marriage to work. It is often said that the family that prays together stays together. You must recognize the hand of God. I have come to discover that there are so many complex reasons and situations why many families have problems.

Now there are some marriages that have no reason not to succeed. All physical indices are right. But there may be an ancestral force, an ancestral power, pulling a string somewhere. There may be even somebody who has just decided to cast a spell on the marriage and it will not work! You can put all things together, the woman may be determined, the man may be determined but at the end of the day you just discover that things are not working. So the God factor is very important because when you have done all you know to do, when you have played your role, it is that God factor that will really get things working. You cannot remove the God factor.It is God that makes the marriage to work to work. Except the Lord builds a house…., that house is home.



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Thursday, 21 July 2011

How To Configure China Phone For Browsing

Below is a simple tutorial on how to configure your china phone for internet browsing.
Please read and apply it well, it works as at the time of this posting.


This is how to configure it:

* Open your phone menu and scroll to services/internet access.

* Open the services/internet access and select wap browser.

* Open the wap browser and select settings.

* After that, open edit profile and select the profile you want to use.

* Under the profile, select edit profile and put the following settings below:

* Under Homepage put this:
For mtn users: wap.mtnonline.com@www.google.com or any other website.
For Glo users: wap.gloworld.com@www.google.com or any other website.
For Airtel users: wap.ng.airtel.com@www.google.com or any other website.
For Etisalat users: wap.etisalat.com@www.google.com or any other website.

* Under Data account: Choose any one e.g China mobile gprs.

* Connection type: Wap.

* IP Address:
For mtn users: 010.199.212.002
For Glo users: 190.129.010.245
For Airtel users: 072.018.254.002
For Etisalat users: 072.055.142.251
After this press Done.

* Security: Off

* User name: wap

* Password: wap
After this press done then yes.
When you are done with the above, use back button to go back to data account.

* Open the data account and select GPRS.

* Open GPRS and select the account you used previously, e.g China mobile gprs.
Edit the account with the following:
* APN:
For mtn users: web.gprs.mtnnigeria.net
For Glo users: wap.gloworld.com
For Airtel users: wap.ng.airtel.com
For Etisalat users: wap.etisalat.com.ng

* Username: wap

* Password: wap.

After all these are completed correctly, use the back button to go back and start browsing the internet with your china phone.

Monday, 4 July 2011

4 MAJOR CAUSES OF BREAKUPS

Jealousy
Have you ever acted sulky after your man went out for a night with his friends? Has he ever had to explain to you who that girl was you saw him talking to? Guys don’t like a jealous woman. They may put up with you for awhile, but they will get sick and tired of your attitude and answering your million questions. If you tend to be the jealous type, try your best to keep it under wraps. At the very least, talk openly and honestly with your man about it and never accuse him of anything without having clear proof.

Out of Love
Some relationships just aren’t meant to be. For whatever reason, he may just not love you anymore or feel that “spark” that is so important for a couple. If this happens to you, make it a learning experience! Now you know what you like and don’t like.

Different values

You may be Agnostic and he is Christian. Or you want to get married soon and he doesn’t. Whatever the reason may be, the two of you have values that are just too different. When you get over the hurt of being dumped you will realize that he did you a favor. Do you really want to be with someone who holds different values? If you do, expect significant challenges down the road.

Secrets Don’t Make Boyfriends
You may be a very private person. You don’t want to tell him everything about you just yet. However, be careful that you don’t hold your cards too close to your chest. If you don’t let him in to know the real you, he may hightail it out of there wondering what you have to hide.

Now that you know some of the top reasons why men break up with women, examine your past relationships. Is there a pattern? If you realize that you tend to be a jealous girlfriend, work on it and try to be better. Don’t let any of these be reasons why you get broken up with again!

Monday, 13 June 2011

YOUR FREEDOM

LATEST YOUR-FREEDOM FREE BROWSING SOFTWARE WITH MTN (JUNE 2011)

First Download the latest version of YOUR-FREEDOM from>
http://www.your-freedom.net/index.php?id=3&referer=1797156

After downloading, install it and configure it as stated below;

Launch your yf,click on configure,
SERVER ADDRESS: ems01.your-freedom.de
(Note. You can use any of this server--- 04,05,09,12,19,30,33,34,35)

Port= 443
Connection mode= https
Tweaks= Nigeria mtn
Tick boxes>2,3,5,6,7,8
Minimum buffer=1500
Reconnection delay=5000
Initial post size=2000000
Minimum post size=1000000
FTP mode=both

GO TO ACCOUNT INFORMATION:
Type in the Username and Password that you have registered on the Freedom site. But if you don’t have a registered account with your-freedom yet,
Just go to
http://www.your-freedom.net/?referer=1797156
and register your account now. It’s free!

Then click on save and exit

Now click on PORT: Tick sock sock4/5 and web proxy...

Click on MESSAGE: Mark Auto Scroll and select DEBUG

You are good to go.

But before you start your free internet browsing,
One more step: Configure your browsers using the following settings:
PROXY ADDRESS: 127.0.0.1 PORT: 8080

Then mark Use Proxy For All Protocols

Goodluck!!

Wednesday, 8 June 2011

Spicy Food And Recipe

EGUSI SOUP

This humble melon seed soup is quite popular all over Nigeria. Although cooking techniques and the kind of vegetables used might differ from region to region it is still absolutely delicious when properly cooked.



Ingredients 500g / llb bushmeat
500g / lib stockfish (pre-soaked)
500g / lib smoked dry fish
250g / 8oz oxtail
250g / 8oz cleaned tripe
2pt stock or water
300g /100z ground egusi
500g lib fresh tomatoes
250g / 8oz fresh peppers
2 large onion
teaspoons iru
4 tablespoon ground crayfish
500g.llb fresh bitter leaf (washed to remove excessive bitterness)
salt to taste


How to prepare
Wash thoroughly the beef oxtail bushmeat, cow beef, or chicken and tripe. Place a large pot with sliced onions season with salt add a drop of water or stock and cook for 30 minutes or until tender.


Add the washed dry fish and stockfish and cook for another 10 minutes. When cooked mm into a large clean bowl. Wipe out the pot and place back on heat. Pour the oil into the pot when hot add the ground tomatoes onions and peppers and fry for 10 minutes. Add the ground egusi and iru stirring thoroughly and cook for 5 minutes.


Finally add cooked meats washed bitter leaf Crayfish and the stock. Allow to boil then simmer for 15 minutes. Serve hot with any of the stiff puddings.


VARIATIONS
Others green leaf vegetables such as fresh waterleaf Soko Tete. Igbo, ugu and Uzaza leaves can also be used on their own or as a combination m the above recipe using the same methods.




AFANG SOUP


INGREDIENTS
- Afang leaves (Sliced and pounded/ground)
- Waterleaf
- Snail
- Beef
- Cow leg
- Dry fish (medium)
- Ground crayfish (a generous amount)
- Periwinkle (shelled)
- 8 fresh yellow peppers
- Palm oil
- Medium Stockfish (cut into size)
- Stockfish head
- 4 Cubed seasoning
- Onions
- salt to taste









What you do
Chicken or fresh fish cannot used because of their strong flavour which might interfere with that of the Afang leaves which is the main ingredient of this soup. If you must use chicken or fresh fish then serve it separately.

Wash the meat, put in a pot and add 2 yellow peppers, onions, salt and 2 cubed seasonings and then cook until tender. Wash the stockfish, cook until tender. Wash snail with lime or alum.

Wash the meat, put in a pot and add 2 yellow peppers, onions, salt and 2 cubed seasonings and then cook until tender. Wash the stockfish, cook until tender. Wash snail with lime or alum.

Wash the dry fish with salt and leave to soak in hot water for 5-8 minutes to remove the sand. Wash the water leaf, slice and then wash again to remove the slime.

In a bigger pot add the cooked meat, stockfish, snail, periwinkle, washed dry fish, ground crayfish, ground yellow pepper, salt and cubed seasoning. Add very little water if necessary. Cook for about 10minutes. Add the washed waterleaf and cook for 5minutes, add palm oil and boil for 2minutes.

Finally add the pounded or ground afang leaves, cook for 2minutes, give it a good stir and allow to simmer. Remove from heat (do not overcook the afang). Serve with pounded yam, fufu or eba.

OHA SOUP (we call it mede mede) finger licking delicacy













HOW TO COOK OHA SOUP

Oha soup is delicious...! It's one of my favorite dishes (when cooked right). It's one of the main soups you'll find in Abia state, one of the Igbo speaking parts of Nigeria. The trademark of this soup that gets me is the shredding of the Oha leaves with your hands. careful, they can stain the fingers.... but with the taste that follows, do you really mind?
Enjoy this one and lemme know how it turned out.

OHA SOUP (finger licking mede-mede)


INGREDIENTS ------- QUANTITIES

Oha/Ora Leaves ------- 1 medium bunch
Dried Meat or Fresh meat ------- 10 medium pieces
Smoked Fish ------- 1 medium size
Stock Fish ------- 3 medium pieces
Oporo/shrimps ------- 1 Cup
Crayfish (ground)------ half cup
Ogiri ------- 1 wrap
Achi ------- 2 tablespoon
Dry pepper (ground) ------- 1 tablespoon
Palm Oil ------- 1 cooking spoon
Water ------- 2 lit res
Maggi / Knorr cubes -------- 2
Salt ------- To taste

METHOD
Boil the stockfish till soft
Add plam oil
If using dried meat, soak the dried meat in boiling water for 6 minutes, then wash thoroughly to remove sand and burn smell, and if using fresh meat, have it already seasoned and boiled along with the stock fish
Boil two lit res of water
Add the stockfish and the meat
Wash the smoked fish and add
Wash the Oporo
Grind the Achi and dissolve in cold water thoroughly and add to the soup. Stir.
Add the Oporo, dry pepper, Ogiri, ground Crayfish, Maggi/Knorr cubes
Stir thoroughly and reduce the heat
Pick wash and cut the Oha leaves with your fingers
Add to the soup and salt to taste. Simmer for about 10 minutes
Serve with cassava fufu





ARE YOU LICKING YOUR HANDS ALREADY??????? UHM STAY WITH ME FOR ANOTHER "REMEKISO" DISH..MUAH MUAH!

Isi-Ewu (spiced goat head)



Cooked and served in a thick spicy sauce, this is an authentic Eastern Nigeria dish (igbo). A real favorite amongst Nigerians and certainty not for tfie faint-hearted as the heat from the large amount of chillies used is enough to take your palate off. I have reduced the amount of chilli used in this recipe, but it can be increased to suit one's taste. A superb dish to be enjoyed on its own.

INGREDIENT :
1goat (head and legs only)
3 fresh chilli pepper
8 fresh tomatoes
2 onions
1 clove garlic
I teaspoon pepper soup seasoning
3tbs. lemon juice
4tbs. tomato puree
200ml/7floz palm-oil
1lt/2pints stock or water
I onion (sliced)
chopped wild mini
salt to taste

Singe the hairs off the head of goat, scrape and singe alternatively until all the hairs are off. Burn the hoofs and horns, peel them off with the point of a heavy knife. Wash the head thoroughly with soap and a rough sponge or brush. Chop into small pieces with a sharp cleaver and rinse thoroughly, discarding the brains. Pour over the lemon juice and mix in. Leave to rest for 15 minutes. Grind together the onions, garlic, chillies and tomatoes. Place meat in a large pot, add the sliced onions, chillies, stock and seasonings. Cover and cook for 45 minutes. Check and stir frequently. Finally add the grind chillies, tomatoes, onions, palm-oil and wild mint. Bring to the boil and simmer gently for 30-40 minutes until meat is tender. Adjust seasoning and serve in traditional earthenware dishes garnish with chopped mint.

Fresh Fish PepperSoup























Ingredients
Fresh Fish ( cat fish)
Lime/ lemon juice
4 habanero or depending how spicy you like it

one medium size onion chopped

water/ stock
salt
Pepper soup spices already ground

one knorr cube


Preparation


clean your fish with the lemon/ lime juice to remove any slime, make sure it is cut into nice pieces. Salt the fish and lay it to the side


Blend your habanero peppers


Turn on the cooker
Add a little groundnut oil to your stock pot
Add your water based on the quantity of fish
Add your chopped onions
Add your habanero and pepper soup mix.
Boil for like 15mins
Add spices then boil a little
Add your seasoned fish cover and let simmer for 5 mins
Taste for seasoning and adjust accordingly
Bring the put down if the taste is OK and you are done

chicken sharwama special



Chicken:
2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
1 teaspoon curry powder
2 teaspoons extra virgin olive oil
3/4 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon ground cumin
3 garlic cloves, minced
1 pound skinless, boneless chicken breast, cut into 16 (3-inch) strips Sauce:
1/2 cup plain 2% reduced-fat Greek yogurt (such as Fage)
2 tablespoons tahini
2 teaspoons fresh lemon juice
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 garlic clove, mincedRemaining ingredients:
Cooking spray
4 (6-inch) pitas
1 cup chopped romaine lettuce
8 (1/4-inch-thick) tomato slices


HOW TO PREPARE
1. Preheat grill to medium-high heat.
2. To prepare chicken, combine first 6 ingredients in a medium bowl. Add chicken to bowl; toss well to coat. Let stand at room temperature 20 minutes.
3. To prepare sauce, combine yogurt and next 4 ingredients (through 1 garlic clove), stirring with a whisk.
4. Thread 2 chicken strips onto each of 8 (12-inch) skewers. Place kebabs on a grill rack coated with cooking spray; grill 4 minutes on each side or until done.
5. Place pitas on grill rack; grill 1 minute on each side or until lightly toasted. Place 1 pita on each of 4 plates; top each serving with 1/4 cup lettuce and 2 tomato slices. Top each serving with 4 chicken pieces; drizzle each serving with 2 tablespoons sauce.

MAKE SURE YOU TRY IT!!! ALWAYS GIVE YOURSELF, FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES A TREAT.......

Palatable Fried Rice


Ingredients

  • Rice - 3 cigar cups | 750g
  • Vegetable Oil
  • Chicken (whole chicken or chicken drumsticks)
  • Cow Liver (100g)
  • Plain Yellow Curry Powder – no chilli (1 tablespoon)
  • Green Beans (a handful)
  • 5 medium sized carrots
  • Salt (to taste)
  • Onions - 3 medium sized bulbs
  • Seasoning – 3 Maggi/Knorr cubes & Thyme (1 teaspoon)

Before you cook the Fried Rice

Cut the vegetables

Wash all the vegetables to be used in cooking the fried rice. Scrape and cut the carrots into tiny cubes. Cut the green beans into small pieces of about 0.7cm long. Soak these 2 vegetables separately in hot water for about 5 minutes and drain. Cut 1 bulb of onion. Set all these aside.

Prepare the liver and chicken

Cook the cow liver till done and cut into tiny pieces.
Cut the whole chicken into pieces and cook with 1 teaspoon of thyme and 2 bulbs of chopped onions. When the chicken is almost done, add 3 cubes of Maggi / Knorr seasoning and a small amount of salt. Remember to add water sparingly. Cook till tender. Put the pieces of chicken in a sieve to drain, then fry with vegetable oil. It can also be grilled in an oven till it is golden. This gives it a glowing look which is more presentable especially when you are entertaining guests.

Cooking Directions

  1. Parboil the rice using the method detailed in parboiling rice for cooking fried rice. Wash the parboiled rice and put in a sieve so all the water drains out.
  2. Pour the chicken stock into a sieve to remove all traces of onions, thyme etc used in cooking the chicken. Pour the stock into a pot and set to boil. Once the water boils, add the parboiled rice. Also, add 1 tablespoon of plain yellow curry powder, then add salt to taste. The plain yellow curry powder is merely for colouring so should not contain chilli.
  3. The water level should be slightly less than the level of the rice; at most it should be at the same level as the rice. This is to ensure that all the water dries up by the time the rice is cooked. Stir the contents; cover the pot and leave to cook on medium heat. This way the rice does not burn before the water dries up.
  4. Once the water has dried up, check that the rice is cooked. Perfect fried rice is one that the grains are separated from one another, resistant to the bite but not hard.
  5. Now, transfer the rice to a casserole dish or another pot to help cool it down quickly. This is essential to keep the grains from sticking to each other. If left in the original hot pot, the rice will continue to cook and eventually stick together.
  6. At this point, it is advisable to divide the vegetables into say 4, 5 or even 6 equal parts. The rice will be fried in batches so this number depends on the quantity of rice you can comfortably fry in the pan or pot. Also, divide the cooked rice and the diced cow liver into the same number of equal parts.
  7. Now pour a small amount of vegetable oil into a frying pan. This quantity of oil should be such that it would be absorbed by 1 part of the cooked rice and 1 part each of the vegetables. When the oil is hot, add 1 part of diced onions and stir for 10 seconds, followed by 1 part of diced cow liver, one part each of the diced vegetables, then 1 part of cooked rice.
  8. Add more salt if necessary. More curry powder may also be added at this stage if you need to touch up on the colour. Stir till all the ingredients have mixed well and transfer to a dry pot. Repeat this for the remaining batches of the ingredients.
The fried rice is ready. Serve with fried chicken. You can add coleslaw, Moi Moi or Nigerian salad.

Friday, 3 June 2011

GENDER SELECTION

How To Determine The Gender of Your Baby

This piece is culled from Shettles Method which is based on the premise that sperm carrying the X and Y chromosomes have different characteristics and that you can influence the reproductive environment to favor one or the other. While there is some controversy surrounding both the credibility and the morality of the method, here's how the theory goes:

It is the sperm that fertilizes the egg that will determine the sex of your baby. Some sperm carry the X-chromosome and some sperm carry the Y-chromosome. If an X-chromosome-carrying sperm fertilizes the egg, the baby will be a girl. If a Y-chromosome-carrying sperm fertilizes the egg, the baby will be a boy.

The idea behind the Shettles Method of sex selection is based on the premise that the X and Y chromosome carrying sperm have different characteristics and that under different circumstances either X- or Y-chromosome-carrying sperm will be more likely to fertilize the egg.


The Y-chromosome-carrying sperm are said to:

  • be faster and smaller than the X-chromosome carrying sperm.
  • die faster than the X-chromosome-carrying sperm.

The X-chromosome-carrying sperm are said to:

  • be slower than the Y-chromosome carrying sperm.
  • be better able to withstand the acidic cervical environment before fertile cervical fluid is produced.

Based on these premises, according to Shettles, you can time intercourse, choose a sexual position that favors conception of your preferred sex and influence the reproductive environment to increase the likelihood of conceiving your preferred sex. These are the suggestions from Dr. Shettles:

To Get A Boy (According to Shettles):

  • Time intercourse as close to ovulation as possible: The idea is that since the Y-chromosome sperm are faster than the X-chromosome sperm, there will be more Y-chromosome sperm who reach the egg, making it more likely that a Y-chromosome carrying sperm will fertilize the egg.
  • Abstain from intercourse for four to five days prior to ovulation. Have intercourse only just at the time of ovulation and just before.
  • Have intercourse that allows for deep penetration. Shettles recommends rear-entry (aka, “doggy-style”). The idea is that the sperm will be deposited closer to the cervix where cervical fluid is most friendly to the Y-chromosome sperm and where the “boy sperm” are more likely to survive since there is less distance to travel.
  • Men avoid tight clothes: heat kills off both types of sperm, but will kill off the less protected, smaller Y-chromosome sperm faster, according to Shettles.
  • Women have an orgasm: According to Shettles, female orgasm increases the alkaline secretions in the vagina that are favorable to the Y-chromosome carrying sperm. Shettles recommends having an orgasm before or at the same time as the male partner.

To Get a Girl (According to Shettles):

  • Have intercourse 2-3 days before ovulation and avoid intercourse just before ovulation until 2 days after ovulation and when you have peak cervical fluid: The idea is that when you have sex a few days before ovulation, only the X-chromosome “girl sperm” will be left in the female reproductive tract waiting to fertilize the egg when it is released.
  • Have intercourse with shallow penetration: Shettles recommends “missionary position”or any position that will deposit the sperm slightly away from the cervix, giving advantage to the longer living, but slower X-chromosome-carrying sperm.
  • Women avoid orgasm: Shettles suggests women avoid orgasm because it makes the vaginal environment more alkaline, and less acidic and is disadvantageous to the X-chromosome “girl sperm”.

If you are taking longer than expected to conceive, it is generally not recommended to attempt any kind of sex selection as it can increase the time it takes to conceive.

Top Ten Fruits And Their Benefits

Studies have shown that intake of fruits contributes immensely to our healthy living. Fruits is a huge source of vitamins which is needed by our body. As we look at the top ten fruits that can be commonly found in Nigeria, we hope you will take note of its benefits and make it a duty to include fruits has part of your daily meals.

WATER MELON
Source of Energy Production
Watermelon is concentrated with b-vitamins. B-vitamins are responsible for a lot of your body’s energy production. This means eating watermelon can give you substantial energy. It also has high amounts energizing nutrients of magnesium and potassium.
Eating watermelon is a safe alternative to taking energy drinks prior to exercise. It also hydrates you due to its high water content as opposed to caffeine filled energy drinks that dehydrate you.

Antioxidants
Watermelon is a natural source of nature’s most powerful antioxidants.
It is a good source of the antioxidant vitamins C and A.
It is also a good source of the powerful antioxidant beta-carotene.
Watermelon’s antioxidants can help prevent a number of things.
It reduces the risk of colon cancer, asthma, heart disease, osteoperosis, rheumatoid arthritis, and prostate cancer.


Kidney Disorders: Water Melon contains a lot of potassium, which is very helpful in cleaning or washing off the toxic depositions in the kidneys. Moreover, it is helpful in reducing concentration of uric acid in the blood, thereby reducing the chances of kidney damages and formation of renal calculi in it. Added to these, being high in water content, it induces frequent urinating, which is again helpful for cleaning of kidneys. Also, the anti oxidants present ensures good health of kidneys for a long time.

High Blood Pressure: A good amount of Potassium and magnesium, present in water melons, are very good in bringing down the blood pressure. The carotenoids present in them prevent hardening of walls of arteries and veins, thereby helping reduce blood pressure.

Diabetes: Diabetes patients, who are supposed to have low energy and low sugar diet, often complaint about starving since they don’t get to eat their staple diet to their full, giving them a feeling of keeping half fed. Water Melons can be a good supplement for them.
In spite of being sweet in taste, a thick wedge will give you very few calories, since ninety nine percent of its total weight is composed of water and roughage. Moreover, the various vitamins and minerals such as potassium and magnesium help in proper functioning of insulin in the body, thus lowering the blood sugar level. Arginine, another component found in water melons, is very effective in enhancing impact of insulin on sugar.

Heart Care: Lypocene, a carotenoid found in abundance in water melon, improves cardiac functions. Beta carotene, known for its remarkable anti oxidant and anti aging properties, also keeps you young at the heart and prevents age related cardiac problems.
The roughage in water melon and its very low energy, with help from vitamin-C, Carotenoids and potassium (potassium cuts the risk of a heart attack), help reduce cholesterol and keep your heart safe.

Impotence: Arginine, present in water melon, is beneficial in curing erectile dysfunctions.
Arginine seems to improve sexual function in men with impotence. Arginine boosts nitric oxide, which relaxes blood vessels.
A study of 50 men with impotence reported significant improved sexual function after arginine supplementation.

Macular Degeneration
Eating watermelon can protect against the negative effects of macular degeneration.
Macular degeneration is just a fancy word for loss of vision.
Leave your worry of eyes on that beta carotene, that vitamin-C and those Lutein and Zeaxanthin.
They will ensure protection of your eyes from macular degeneration. They are experts in that.
These anti oxidants will protect your eyes from other age related ailments such as drying up of eyes and optical nerves, glaucoma etc.


Cancer Prevention
Watermelon is a rich natural source of lycopene, a carotenoid of great interest because of its antioxidant capacity and potential health benefits. Dietary consumption of the carotenoid lycopene has been associated with a lower risk of prostate cancer. Data from studies provides evidence that increased consumption of lycopene-containing foods might reduce the occurrence or progression of prostate cancer. The results of a study suggest that vegetables and fruits rich in lycopene and other carotenoids may be protective against prostate cancer.

To determine whether dietary intake of lycopene and other carotenoids has an etiological association with prostate cancer, a study was conducted of 130 prostate cancer patients. The prostate cancer risk declined with increasing consumption of lycopene, alpha-carotene, beta-carotene, beta-cryptoxanthin, lutein and zeaxanthin.

Nutrient Profile Per Serving
Vitamin A: 10%
Vitamin C: 25%
Vitamin B6: 10%
Vitamin B1: 10%
Magnesium: 7%
Potassium: 5%
That is the end of fruits one, our next fruit to look on next will be PAWPAW


PAWPAW

Paw-paw has many nutritional and health benefits. It is easily digestible and aids in the digestion of other foods.
It is rich in vitamin A and C, potassium, calcium, magnesium, phosphorous, iron, and soluble vegetable fiber.

It is recommended that paw-paw be taken regularly. Paw-paw is much desirable and enjoyed when eaten fresh and ripe. Taking it in this way makes it to become an excellent breakfast and desert. Paw-paw juice mixed with milk is an excellent blood tonic, dessert and appetizer. Paw-paw prevents stomach troubles, such as indigestion, constipation, and peptic ulcers.

Paw-paw is rich in enzymes called pa-pain, which help in the breakdown of protein into amino acids and digestion.
Eating paw-paw after a meal aids digestion and prevents bloating and chronic indigestion.
Paw-paw is very good in treating infective diarrhea, due to its emollient action. Paw-paw is rich in vitamin A, which helps in the prevention of skin problems like eczema, pimples, and acne. Paw-paw with its vitamin A helps to protect the eye.

Paw-paw is also very good for the skin because of the amount of vitamin A it contains, and not only does it make the skin soft and tight, but it also deals with skin disorders such as acne, pimples and eczema. The vitamin A in paw-paw is also good for the eyesight, muscles, and nerves. It known that paw-paw helps to tighten and smooths the skin, due to the presence of enzymes.


According to the DIY treatment recommended by spa expert Stella Cray can be tried thus: using a spoon, scoop out papaya seeds and throw away. Then scoop out the pink flesh and put in a blender with 6 ounces of plain yogurt, blend for about one minute until smooth. Stand over and old towel and using a circular motion, massage the mixture over problem spots like the stomach and thighs.
Wrap the area strongly with cellophane tape. Then grab a good book and read, relaxing for about 30 minutes before peeling off the plastic and rinsing skin with water.

It works because papaya’s enzymes called pa-pains stimulates collagen production band slough off the top layer of dead skin cells to reveal softer smoother, and firmer skin. The warmed from the plastic wrap allows moisturizing yogurt to penetrate more deeply into the skin.

Massaging the body helps circulation, causing hydrating blood to flow to cellulite prone areas, plumping skin and reducing dimples. With repeated use, the vitamin C in the fruit strengthens the skin to further reduce cellulite. Paw-paw therefore can give you a cellulite free thighs.

Paw-paw improves digestion of protein and expels worms. The ripe fruits are rich in vitamin A, B, and C. Vitamin A is excellent for a good eyesight, muscles, nerves. The vitamin C is generally known to strengthen the immune system and assist in combating diseases.
As a worm expeller, chew two tablespoons of seeds of unripe paw-paw fruit, first and last thing in the morning and night respectively, for about three days. For malaria fever and jaundice, squeeze some yellow paw-paw leaves in water and take a glassful three times daily for seven days.

For stomach ulcer, cut a big unripe fruit of papaya and put in a bottle with water, store for four days, sieve and take half a glass, thrice daily for two weeks. For chronic external ulcers or sores, cut a piece of unripe pawpaw fruit and tie directly to the wound. Do this four times daily. Continue till the wound has dried, which will be in few days or weeks. To make the wound heal faster, eat plenty of ripe pawpaw.


For Asthma, burn the dry leaves of papaya and inhale whenever there is an attack. Also prevent further attacks by inhaling the smoke every night. The vitamin C in paw-paw fruit reinforces the entire immune system and gives the body the support that is required to overcome many diseases.

Malaria fever- Squeeze some yellow pawpaw leafs in water. Take a glassful three times daily for seven days. This preparation is also good for jaundice. The dosage is the same.

Diabetes- The green leafs of pawpaw are good foe diabetes-induced hypertension. Squeeze the green leaves in water and take a glass thrice daily. This preparation is also good for constipation.

Bronchitis- The root of the pawpaw plant is a good remedy for respiratory problems especially bronchitis. Bring some pawpaw roots to boil and take ½ a glass thrice daily. For cough, simply chew a tender pawpaw root and swallow the juice.

Piles- Pawpaw root is effective for the cure of piles. Prepare as for bronchitis. The dosage is half a glass twice daily.

Impotence- Cut two unripe pawpaw fruits into pieces (seeds and peel inclusive). Bring to boil in eight bottles of water. Take half glass thrice daily.



MANGOES
Anti cancer: The phenols in mangoes, such as quercetin, isoquercitrin, astragalin, fisetin, gallic acid and methylgallat, as well as the abundant enzymes, have cancer-preventing capacities. Mango is also high in a soluble dietary fiber known as pectin. Scientist have identified a strong link between eating lots of fiber and a lower risk of cancers of the gastrointestinal tract. A cup of sliced mangoes (around 165 gram) contain 76 percent of the needed daily value of vitamin C, a potent antioxidant which helps protect cells from free radical damage and reduces risk of cancer.
Eye health: One cup of sliced mangoes supplies 25 percent of the needed daily value of vitamin A, which promotes good eyesight. Eating mangoes regularly prevents night blindness, refractive errors, dryness of the eyes, softening of the cornea, itching and burning in the eyes.
Helps in digestion: Mangoes contain digestive enzymes that help break down proteins and aid digestion. It is also valuable to combat acidity and poor digestion because of an enzyme found in the fruit which soothes the stomach. Due to the high amounts of fiber found in mango, it can be a helpful in keeping you regular, thereby helping or preventing constipation. Eating one or two small tender mangoes in which the seed is not fully formed with salt and honey is found to be very effective medicine for summer diarrhoea, dysentery, piles, morning sickness, chronic dyspepsia, indigestion and constipation.

Benefits to skin: Mango is effective in relieving clogged pores of the skin. What this means is that people who suffer from acne, which is caused by clogged pores, will benefit from mango. Just remove the mango pulp and apply it on your skin for about 10 minutes before washing it. Eating mango regularly makes the complexion fair and the skin soft and shining.
Helps in diabetes: Mango leaves help normalize insulin levels in the blood. Boil a few mango leaves in water and allow it to saturate through the night. Consume the filtered decoction in the morning for diabetic home remedy. The glycemic index of mango is low, ranging between 41-60. So, mango does not have any significant effect in increasing blood sugar levels.
For better sex: The Vitamin E that is abundantly present in mangoes helps to regulate sex hormones and boosts sex drive.

Beneficial for anemia: Mangoes are beneficial for pregnant women and individuals suffering from anemia because of their iron content. Also, vitamin C in the mango enhances the absorption of iron from vegetable food like rice. Generally women after menopause become weak and they should take mangoes and other fruits rich in iron.
Boost memory: Mangoes are useful to children who lack concentration in studies as it contains Glutamine acid which is good to boost memory and keep cells active.
Avoid heat stroke: Unripe mangoes, a rich source of pectin, when steamed and juiced with cumin (jeera), rock salt and sugar, provide an excellent remedy for heat stroke and heat exhaustion in summer.

Weight gain: Mangoes can be beneficial for people wanting to gain weight. A 100 gram of mango contains about 75 calories. Also, raw mangoes contain starch which get converted into sugar as the fruit ripens. So ripe and sweet mangoes when consumed with milk (rich in protein) can be very helpful in weight gain.
Nutritional Value of Mango
One medium sized mango comprises of:
Calories – 107
Protein – 0.84 g
Carbohydrate – 28 g
Total Fat – 0.45 g
Fiber – 3 g
Vitamin A – 6425 IU
Vitamin C – 45.7mg
Magnesium – 18 mg
Potassium – 300 mg
Calcium – 20 g
Cholesterol – 0 g
Saturated fat – 0 g
Mango is High in Iron
Mango is a fruit that is very high in iron. Women, especially, need to increase the amount of iron that they consume due to the large amounts that they lose during menstruation. Pregnant women also need to think about increasing the amount of iron that they consume. People with an iron deficiency, which is called anemia, would also benefit from the high amount of iron offered in mango.

Mango May Get Rid of Acne
It is believed that mango may help unclog pores. What this means is that people who suffer from acne, which is caused by clogged pores, will benefit from mango. All that you need to do in order to take advantage of this property of mango is apply thin slices to the area of skin that you want to clear up. Leave the mango there for about ten minutes before rinsing the skin with warm water.
Mango is an Anti-Inflammatory Fruit
One of the main benefits of mango is that it offers anti-inflammatory properties. This is known to help the body in a number of different ways. It can reduce pain from conditions such as arthritis. Mango is also known to relieve symptoms from asthma due to the anti-inflammatory benefits that it has to offer.



PINEAPPLE
Pineapple is loaded with Vitamins and Minerals: The obvious benefits of pineapple are all the vitamins and minerals the fruit is loaded with. Its nutrients include calcium, potassium, fiber, and vitamin C. In addition it is low in fat and cholesterol.
It Strengthens weak bones: One of the benefits of pineapple is that it helps to build healthy bones. Pineapples are rich in manganese, a trace mineral that is needed for your body to build bone and connective tissues. Just one cup of pineapple provides 73% of the daily recommended amount of manganese. The benefits of pineapple can effect the growth of bones in young people and the strengthening of bones in older people.

It is Good for Gums: Your gums are very important to keep healthy. The gums hold the teeth in place and your teeth would be in bad condition if you have unhealthy gums. By eating pineapple, you are strengthening your gums to make it through the hard years later.
It Prevents Macular Degeneration: Pineapples contain a lot of beta-carotene that is good for the eyes and for your vision. Studies show that eating three or more helpings of pineapple a day may lower your chance of getting age-related macular degeneration, the main cause of vision loss in older folks.
IT Helps Arthritis (diseases of the joints): Bromelain is also considered an effective anti-inflammatory. Regular ingestion of at least one half cup of fresh pineapple daily is purported to relieve painful joints common to osteoarthritis. It produces mild pain relief. In Germany, bromelain is approved as a post-injury medication because it is thought to reduce inflammation and swelling.

Coughs and Colds: While many people often take extra vitamin C or drink extra orange juice when they have a cold, few consider eating pineapple. The benefits of pineapple when you have a cold or cough are the same as the benefits of orange juice, but there is an additional benefit of pineapple. Bromelain, which is found in pineapples, has been found to help suppress coughs and loosen mucus.
Digestion: The bromelain found in pineapples aids in digestion. Eating one slice of pineapple after each meal will reduce gas, bloating, nausea, constipation and the symptoms of irritable bowel syndrome. Fresh pineapple juice also aids in removing intestinal worms.
Sinusitis and Bronchitis: Bromelain has been shown helpful for upper respiratory tract infections such as Sinusitis and Bronchitis. Bromelain helps to reducing nasal inflammation and break up the mucus in the nasal, sinus and respiratory area.
Blood Clots: Pineapples can help reduce the risk of blood clots due to the bromelain present in the fruit and thereby preventsing heart problems.
When you eat pineapples, you have a better chance at having a healthier life.
Nutritive Value : Per 100 gm.
Vitamin A : 130 I.U.
Vitamin C : 24 mg.
Calcium : 16 mg.
Phosphorus : 11 mg.
Potassium : 150 mg.
Carbohydrates : 13.7 gm.
Calories : 52
Pineapple is also Beneficial in the following condition :
It is regulates the gland and found to be helpful in cases of goiter(enlargement of the thyroid gland).
Dyspepsia (chronic digestive disturbance).
Bronchitis (inflammation of the bronchial tubes.)
High Blood pressure.

Fresh pineapple juice is also used in removing intestinal worms.
Fresh pineapple juice has been used to combat diphtheria and other infections of the throat or other parts of the body.
Prevents nausea (includes morning sickness and motion sickness), Take 230 cc. of pineapple juice or papaya juice.

Eating fruits does not mean buying fruits, cutting it and popping it into our mouths.It involves more than that.It is important to know how and when to eat fruits. Let me show you the correct way of eating fruits.

Research has shown that it is important not to eat fruits after your meals, fruits should be eaten on an empty stomach.If you eat fruits like that,it will play a major role to detoxify your system, supplying you with a great deal of energy for weight loss and other life activities.

Bear in mind that fruits is the most important food but eating fruits after meals causes stomach discomfort as the fruits come in contact with the meal. The whole meal rots and ferments turning into acid.This could lead to cancer because the moment fruits come into contact with food in the stomach and digestive juices, the food begins to spoil.

Taking fruits on an empty stomach prevents graying hair,balding,nervous outburst and dark circles around the eyes. Fruits that are considered acidic like oranges and lemon don’t cause harm because all fruits become alkaline in our bodies according to research.
The secret of true beauty, longevity, health, energy, happiness and normal weight lies in mastering the correct way of eating fruits.Try this and achieve your desired weight and beauty.




Soursop is a fruit that has the most delectable flavor. The soursop is a large fruit of a small, fast-growing tree. The fruit is picked from the tree before it has fully ripened as it will be badly bruised if allowed to ripen and fall. The fruit is mature and is ready for eating when it feels slightly soft and is light green externally. The skin is thin and is covered with conical nibs. The white, pulpy flesh, which contains juice, is peppered with small shiny, black inedible seeds, and has a pleasant, sweet-acidic taste. As it is rather fibrous, its squeezed juice makes a better choice, and has, in fact become more popular than the fresh fruit as such. Soursop has few seedless varieties, but they are rare, and tend to have fibrous flesh.

Medicinal Benefits: Soursop is not only a delicious and healthy fruit but it is use medicinally to treat illness ranging from stomach ailments to worms.
• The seeds, which have emetic properties, can be used in the treatment of vomiting.
• The leaf decoction is effective for head lice and bedbugs.
• The crushed fresh leaves can be applied on skin eruptions to promote healing.
• The juice of the fruit can be taken orally as a remedy for urethritis, haematuria and liver ailments.
• The juice when taken when fasting, it is believed to relieve liver ailments and leprosy.
• To speed the healing of wounds, the flesh of the soursop is applied as a poultice unchanged for 3 days.
• A decoction of the young shoots or leaves is regarded as a remedy for gall bladder trouble, as well as coughs, catarrh, diarrhea, dysentery, fever and indigestion.
• Mashed leaves are used as a poultice to alleviate eczema and other skin problems and rheumatism.
• The root bark is use as an antidote for poisoning.
• Soursop flowers are believed to alleviate catarrh.
• Decoction of leaves used as compresses for inflammation and swollen feet.

Nutrient Value per 100 grams servings:
• Vitamin: C 20.6
• Calcium: 14
• Iron: 0.6
• Calories: 66
• Dietary Fiber: 3.3g
• Protein: 1g
• Cholesterol: 0mg
• Sodium: 14mg
• Sugars: 13.54g
• Total Carbohydrate: 16.84g
• Total Fat: 0.3g
• Saturated Fat: 0.05g
• Monounsaturated Fat: 0.09g
• Polyunsaturated Fat: 0.06g
Culinary uses: eaten fresh as fruit; made into cakes, ice cream, preserved, beverages and for flavoring. The young soursop, where the seeds are still soft, is used as a vegetable. The fermented fruit is also use to make an apple cider-like drink.